The talking about “getting rid of”, “disconnecting”, “cutting ties to” used by unprofessional therapists who are NOT SPECIALIST in big trauma and DID and when working with big trauma and DID clients their words only reinforces what they already do, would better be replaced by the talk about “paying attention to”, “embracing”, “listening carefully to”….

What kind of trauma is your therapist specialist in?

What kind of trauma is your therapist specialist in?


Sam was reading the news from his RSS Reader…

and one was about new e-book reader device.

So he went to see the titles available at the manufacturer’s website,

and among the psychology titles there was this one that

I did find particularly interesting.

So I went to check it out furtherly by looking into

the book content’s and covers preview (at competition’s website).

We also googled the author and she turned to be

truly an academic/intellectual author (which pleased

our Intellectual Alter, as well – so not only The Bold One,

but other alters were satisfied with the finding :) ).

protection lifted

As it was announced in my (yesterday’s) comment under the post in which we allowed the “bad” part’s feelings to be expressed for the first time here, today is the day when we feel we are able to let The “Bad” One (not to be confused with the Bold One) express his feelings in his own voice, at his own blog. Which is not unlike when a child in family can be trusted enough to be able to have his/her own room, and does not have to be in a crib in the corner of the parents’ bedroom, anymore.

So, we proudly present our “Bad” One’s room/new blog made according to his/her own needs and preferences.

I felt it would not be fair to BTC and her readers to trigger them with my expressing the angry feelings at emotionally illiterate professional therapists over at BTC’s blog, so I will do it here, instead:

@ Dawn – Since you came here in the role of professional therapist AND were the one who has first used the extremely rude derogatory language as “pseudologia fantastica, mythomania, or pathological lying” instead of showing some maturer emotionally literate ways to establish contact with your prospective new clients, it revealed you as a therapist to be as low as possible on the scale of emotional literacy, the literacy without which you shouldn’t be allowed to work as professional therapist…

To conclude – instead of the client-therapist dictionary, illiterate therapists like you could really use some “Emotional literacy for completely illiterate professional therapists” guide.


Today I posted another comment along the lines of emotional literacy. Below I quote, copypaste, my comment from Kathy’s blog, here:

By implying that it was expressed instead of another (“correct”) emotion, the “correctness” ( = validity) of one particular emotion (be it anger or any other emotion) is being questioned.

And I don’t like emotions to be questioned!

They need to be acknowledged, firstly.

And, secondly, we need to learn a repertoire of creative ( = non-destructive) ways to express the emotion (all of them).

That’s all. Easier said then done, of course ;)

And another thing.

It is especially counter-productive to say to the traumatized client “you should look at the pain instead of expressing anger”. Nope! Learning creative repertoire of (non-destructive) ways to express the anger is all we need!


printscreen image of a Twitter post by BTC with her links to the Yalom interview
printscreen image of a Twitter post by BTC with her links to the Yalom interview

Note No.5

In this note you can read ours

notion of  internalizing a therapists’

(“voice” of) meta – interest / curiosity

(see our webpage on meta-…)

as the toughest yet most valuable outcome

of any therapy, “being confirmed”

(in this interview) by such a psychotherapy

authority as Irvin D. Yalom

So if only we can inculcate in the patient this passion (  = emotion, comment by S.)

for curiosity;

to fertilize this curiosity about themselves.

When people don’t have any curiosity about themselves

that is always a bad sign.

I keep trying to figure out ways to induce curiosity, even if

it’s by saying to them:

“how come I’m so much more curious about you

than you are about yourself?”

Source: http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-therapy/200903/seven-questions-irvin-yalom

Meta-source: http://www.google.com/notebook/public/15007374035221757547/BDQgkQgoQyaHQ7_gj

Below you can read what we wrote under Castor Girl’s  post, but it is really our reply to the “protected” (i.e. hidden content) post.

We noticed the post is showing signs (such as being categorized/tagged under “Self injury, Suicidal ideation” etc, by herself) which tell us the inside anger was re-directed at herself instead at those who are really guilty (i.e. the ACC/et al)

Dear Castor Girl

In my opinion it is unfair (by the ACC, the legal system, the society as whole, the God) to trigger you with having to list the incidences of abuse (before allowing you to be helped).

It’s plain wrong what they are doing. They are guilty. Not you.

Please let the inside hatred be directed at them (not at yourself by self-injuring).

They deserve to be injuried (i.e. not you).

Can you express the inside hatred at them, please?

If you can not… can you at least direct the anger at me (for whatever reason) instead of self-injuring?

They should apologize to you for triggering you.

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