I felt it would not be fair to BTC and her readers to trigger them with my expressing the angry feelings at emotionally illiterate professional therapists over at BTC’s blog, so I will do it here, instead:
@ Dawn – Since you came here in the role of professional therapist AND were the one who has first used the extremely rude derogatory language as “pseudologia fantastica, mythomania, or pathological lying” instead of showing some maturer emotionally literate ways to establish contact with your prospective new clients, it revealed you as a therapist to be as low as possible on the scale of emotional literacy, the literacy without which you shouldn’t be allowed to work as professional therapist…
To conclude – instead of the client-therapist dictionary, illiterate therapists like you could really use some “Emotional literacy for completely illiterate professional therapists” guide.
Today I posted another comment along the lines of emotional literacy. Below I quote, copypaste, my comment from Kathy’s blog, here:
By implying that it was expressed instead of another (“correct”) emotion, the “correctness” ( = validity) of one particular emotion (be it anger or any other emotion) is being questioned.
And I don’t like emotions to be questioned!
They need to be acknowledged, firstly.
And, secondly, we need to learn a repertoire of creative ( = non-destructive) ways to express the emotion (all of them).
That’s all. Easier said then done, of course ;)
And another thing.
It is especially counter-productive to say to the traumatized client “you should look at the pain instead of expressing anger”. Nope! Learning creative repertoire of (non-destructive) ways to express the anger is all we need!