As it was announced in my (yesterday’s) comment under the post in which we allowed the “bad” part’s feelings to be expressed for the first time here, today is the day when we feel we are able to let The “Bad” One (not to be confused with the Bold One) express his feelings in his own voice, at his own blog. Which is not unlike when a child in family can be trusted enough to be able to have his/her own room, and does not have to be in a crib in the corner of the parents’ bedroom, anymore.
So, we proudly present our “Bad” One’s room/new blog made according to his/her own needs and preferences.
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May 7, 2009 at 12:32 pm
Hi Bold Alter,
I hope you don’t mind me leaving a message here, but I couldn’t see anywhere to add a comment to the Murderously Revengeful Alter’s entry regarding Dawn’s actions.
When we saw the contributions that Dawn made on BTC’s blog, we immediately dissociated and the angry protective ones came forward wanting to lash out. I didn’t realise at the time how badly that incident affected us; but after reading the Murderously Revengeful Alter’s entry, I can understand why we reacted so badly. Not only did she insult our friend (you), but it was a very short, sharp intrusion by someone with another agenda. They were only interested in their own opinion and putting it across. Her reaction also showed her own insecurities – she was unable to respond beyond the protective front of insults and quasi-psychology.
Just from our point of view, we don’t consider the Murderously Revengeful Alter to be “bad”. There is justifiable anger and extreme emotion there – that emotion isn’t bad, it’s extreme.
Take care
Buffie :)
May 7, 2009 at 12:53 pm
Yes, its extreme. It’s not bad by itself, it only has the potential – if acted out – to turn into actions that would be bad. Probably people who consider those emotions bad jump to quickly to conclusions, skipping the condition, and assuming that every extreme feeling necessary leads to extreme behaviors, which is not the case. But probably people just don’t want to take chances and raise up their children in the spirit of forbidding emotions themselves just because they are extreme. But in that case.. forbidding -> repression -> accumulation -> add some alcohol plus trigger… and you get bad behaviors.
May 7, 2009 at 1:23 pm
I think an angry response to what Dawn did is SO highly appropriate here – and I certainly don’t view those kinds of emotions as bad (extreme is a good word Buffie). Well done for expressing them in this way (and I hope that doesn’t sound patronising – I don’t mean it too. I know I’d find it hard to express them and so have a lot of respect for you being able to).
May 7, 2009 at 1:31 pm
@ Rachel – thank you Rachel… for taking time and for writing us.. sending you a safest possible hug to you – if/when wanted.
May 7, 2009 at 1:35 pm
yes please!